[Slideshare]adab(lesson#5)

“ Aa-daab ” Arabic (plural) of Adab : meanings – “good breeding, decency, nurture, good manners, refinement, cultured, decorum, courteous, etiquette, propriety, social grace, to educate, discipline, the humanities, etc.” sense of proportion and knowledge of their rightful place in the order of things, the absence of which indicates injustice LESSONS ON ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF ADAB By: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail آدَابٌ LESSON # 5 Held on (8th May 2010) Every Saturday @ 8pm Wisma Indah 448 Changi Rd,#02-00 (Next to Masjid Kassim), All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

“ THE COVENANT” “ In understanding our ‘Self’ ( Nafs ), each one of us as Muslims, must be reminded of our covenant made is the world of the Souls – which in this world we have renewed alHamdulillah , with our shahadahtain .” RECAP PREVIOUS LESSONS All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 LESSONS ON ISLAMIC ADAB By: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail

“ THE COVENANT” “ To be a witnesses in attesting Tauhiid , we are commanded to uphold Justice. By justice, we have the terms “ qist ” and “ ‘adalah ”. Thus our understanding of Ada b connotes this imperative towards Justice, tampered with Ihsan and generosity. RECAP PREVIOUS LESSONS All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 LESSONS ON ISLAMIC ADAB By: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail

Also defined as – “sense of proportion and knowledge of their rightful place in the order of things, the absence of which indicates injustice (zulm). ” * “ Adab ” All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 RECAP PREVIOUS LESSONS LESSONS ON ISLAMIC ADAB By: Ustaz Zhulkeflee Hj Ismail

In our existence, we have to be mindful of our life and all our responsibilities and commitment which we are commanded to bind ourselves to, or have taken upon ourselves towards those whom we have covenanted (made contract / agreement) with. Placing them in their rightful place, fulfilling or giving them their just due. LESSON # 2 All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 RECAP PREVIOUS LESSONS

“ And interact with people in the best manner of disposition (i.e. adopt a noble character).” ( Hadith reported by at-Tabrani ) In interacting with people, our Prophet s.a.w. commands us to adopt the best manner in our disposition, which when applied would require knowledge with “ Adab .” LESSON # 2 وَخَالِقِ النَّاسَ بِخُلُقٍ حَسَنٍ RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

Relationship with the Self THE WORLD TIME SELF BODY TONGUE MIND DESIRE HEART Initial traits: [1] Appetite, [2] Emotion still link to needs, [3] curiosity, memory, [4] imitative, see, listen & do, [5] application of basic sensory feelings Nafs al-ammarah (Commanding self) Link to various Quwwah (powers): [1] shahwiyya (desires) [2] ghadabiyya (anger) [3] Wahmiyah (imaginative) [4] ‘aqliyya (thoughts) Importance of linguistics to thoughts: عَلَّمَهُ ٱلۡبَيَانَ “ He has taught him speech (and Intelligence)”(Q: Ar-Rahman: 55: 4) RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

By retracing our life, we start with understanding our basic nature as a human being - having inherent powers and their potentialities to be developed. “ Objective of Islamic Education is to produce a Good Person” BEGINNING OF EDUCATION RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 LESSON # 3

In our relationship regarding our Education – we are to encounter, i.e. assisted by our educators - with what is referred to as, “ knowledge ”. “ Objective of Islamic Education is to produce a Good Person” RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 LESSON # 3 BEGINNING OF EDUCATION

“ Parable of The Computer” Slides available on : http://al-amthaal.blogspot.com WHAT IS KNOWLEDGE? HOW LEARNING TAKES PLACE? All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON LESSON # 3

Islam : to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. THE WORLD TIME SELF BODY TONGUE MIND DESIRE HEART Relationship with the Parents and Teacher Obedience to Parents and teachers Beginning of education: [1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc. Teacher/Educator: [1] Parent [2] Teacher Although ultimate is Knowledge, (both theoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial. PARENTS TEACHERS KNOWLEDGE RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

Islam : to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. THE WORLD TIME SELF BODY TONGUE MIND DESIRE HEART Relationship with the Parents and Teacher Obedience to Parents and teachers Beginning of education: [1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc. Teacher/Educator: [1] Parent [2] Teacher Although ultimate is Knowledge, (both theoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial. PARENTS TEACHERS KNOWLEDGE RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 KNOWLEDGE

Islam : to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. THE WORLD TIME Relationship with the Parents and Teacher Obedience to Parents and teachers Beginning of education: [1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc. Teacher/Educator: [1] Parent [2] Teacher Although ultimate is Knowledge, (both theoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial. PARENTS TEACHERS KNOWLEDGE RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 SELF

Islam : to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. THE WORLD TIME MIND DESIRE HEART Relationship with the Parents and Teacher Obedience to Parents and teachers Beginning of education: [1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc. Teacher/Educator: [1] Parent [2] Teacher Although ultimate is Knowledge, (both theoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial. PARENTS TEACHERS KNOWLEDGE RECAP PREVIOUS LESSON All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 SELF ROLE AS A STUDENT (Seeker of knowledge)

Islam : to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. SELF KNOWLEDGE TEACHERS THE WORLD BODY MIND TONGUE HEART DESIRE PARENTS TIME All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 Relationship with the Parents and Teacher Beginning of education: [1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc. Teacher/Educator: [1] Parent [2] Teacher Although ultimate is Knowledge, (both theoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial. Obedience to Parents and teachers

Islam : to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. SELF KNOWLEDGE TEACHERS THE WORLD BODY MIND TONGUE HEART DESIRE TIME All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 Relationship with the Parents and Teacher Beginning of education: [1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc. Teacher/Educator: [1] Parent [2] Teacher Although ultimate is Knowledge, (both theoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial. Obedience to Parents and teachers PARENTS

IMPORTANT REMINDERS: “ Do men think that on their [mere] saying, ‘We believe,’ they will be left to themselves, and will not be put to a test? Yea, indeed, we did test those who lived before them; and so too, [shall be tested those Muslims who is now living and] most certainly will He mark out those who prove themselves true, and most certainly will He mark out those who are lying.” ( Qur’an: al- Ankabut: 29: 2-3 ) All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 (Arabic script refer to Mushaf al-Qur’an)

IMPORTANT REMINDERS: “ Verily! We create man from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to test him; so We gave him (gifts of) hearing, sight. Verily! We have shown him the Way, whether he be grateful or ungrateful i.e. disbelieving (rests on his will).” ( Qur’an: Al-Insan:76: 2-3 ) All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 (Arabic script refer to Mushaf al-Qur’an)

IMPORTANT REMINDERS: “ And remember! Your Lord caused to be declared (publicly): ‘If you are grateful, I will add more (favours) unto you; but if you show ingratitude, truly My punishment is terrible indeed.” ( Qur’an: Ibrahim : 14: 7 ) All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 (Arabic script refer to Mushaf al-Qur’an)

( الشَكوُر ) BEING GRATEFUL: The key to achieving increase bestowal from Allah. yet how does one become grateful? What are the important criteria? Acknowledge the true giver, Allah Who is the Bestower of those favours. Learn the value of what is given, do not take any of these favours for granted. Utilize what is given in accordance to what may please the Giver (i.e. do not abuse the gift), so as not to cause His wrath to befall us. IMPORTANT CRITERIA : All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

Allah is pleased with us, when we have pleased our parents. “ Serve Allah and join not any partners with Him: and do good― to parents...” ( Qur’an: an-Nisa’: 4: 36 ) All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 (Arabic script refer to Mushaf al-Qur’an)

Allah is pleased with us, when we have pleased our parents. “ Allah’s pleasure (acceptance) is in the pleasure (acceptance) of your parents (towards you), and Allah’s displeasure is in the displeasure of your parents (towards you).” ( Hadith reported in Subulus Salam narrated from the Prophet s.a.w. by ‘Abdullah ibn ‘Amr ibn ‘Ash r.a .) رِضَى اللهِ فِيْ رِضَى الْوَالِدَيْنِ ، وَسُخْطُ اللهِ فِيْ سُخْطِ الْوَالِدَيْنِ All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

Allah is pleased with us, when we have pleased our parents. “ (A person) is not grateful to Allah those who are unwilling to (or cannot) be grateful towards people” ( Hadith reported by Tirmidzi ) لاَ يَشْكُرُاللهَ مَنْ لاَ يَشْكُرُ النَّاسَ All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

And We have enjoined on man (to be good) to his parents: in travail upon travail did his mother bear him, and in years twain was his weaning: (hear the command) "Show gratitude to Me and to thy parents: to Me is (thy final) Goal.” ( Qur’an: Luqman: 31: 14 ) To serve and do good towards parents has greater merit than Jihad All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 (Arabic script refer to Mushaf al-Qur’an)

"But if they strive to make the join in worship with Me things of which thou hast no knowledge obey them not; Yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration) and follow the way of those who turn to Me (in love): in the End the return of you all is to Me, and I will tell you the truth (and meaning) of all that ye did.“ ( Qur’an: Luqman: 31: 15 ) All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 (Arabic script refer to Mushaf al-Qur’an)

Pray (supplicate) for our parent and honour their friends / companions. “ And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: "My Lord! bestow on them Thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood." ( Qur’an: al-Isra: 17:24 ) All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 (Arabic script refer to Mushaf al-Qur’an)

Mother deserves greater right than father Maintaining good manners, and hold to good opinions, towards parents. “ Thy Lord hath decreed that ye worship none but Him, and that ye be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in thy life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour.” ( Qur’an: al-Isra: 17:23 ) All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

Manners towards parents (generally). Do not walk in front (or ahead) of them; Never call them by their names; Not to sit in front of them; Do not object to their advise and whatever they enjoin upon for you; Do not eat the food which is in front of them; Do not sit on a place higher than where they are seated; Do not be disobedient towards them. All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

ACTS WHICH ARE REGARDED AS BEING DISOBEDIENT TOWARDS THEM: To give a sinister look at them (especially when in anger), including other subtle signs of displeasure towards them; To consider oneself equal to them; Arrogance and disrespectful by refusing to kiss their hands; Being ashamed to let others know that they are his parents, especially when he has become accomplished and has status; All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

ACTS WHICH ARE REGARDED AS BEING DISOBEDIENT TOWARDS THEM: The worst is to say to them “ ah! ” or such expression of disgust, or any other acts which are meant to hurt their feelings, to demean, to despise, to degrade etc. to make them loose their respect and dignity. All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

ACTS WHICH ARE REGARDED AS BEING DISOBEDIENT TOWARDS THEM: Abu Bakar r.a. narrated the Rasulullah s.a.w. once said: “ Shall I inform you all of three of the greatest sins ( al-kabaa-ir )?” We replied: “Certainly O Messenger of Allah”. He then said: “To commit ‘Shirk’ (setting up partners to Allah), to be disobedient towards parents, and to speak falsehood or bear witness to falsehood.” ( Hadith reported by Bukhary and Muslim ) All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 أَلاَ أُنَبِّءُكُمْ بِأَكْبَرِ الْكَبَاءِرِ ثَلاَثًا؟ قُلْنَا - بَلَى يَارَسُولَ الله ، قَالَ - اَلإِشْراكُ بِاللهِ ، وَعُقُوْقُ الْوَالِدَيْنِ ، وَقَوْلُ الزُوْرِ وَشَهَادَةُ الزُّوْرِ

To obey parents, except in matters of ma’siyya (sins or disobedience towards Allah and His Messenger). Bear with their ways with patience, speaking to them with respect and soft-tone voice in all situation. To stand in respect when they arrive or enter into their presence. To kiss their hands whenever required. To preserve their good names, their honourable status and their properties. TEACH OUR YOUNG ONES: All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

To honour them by granting them their requests. Always involve them in your consultations of matters. Always make Du’a (supplicate) for their well-being and seek Allah’s forgiveness for them. When they receive guests, be ready nearby to serve, just in case your parents need your assistance regarding them. TEACH OUR YOUNG ONES: All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

To always do things which will please them, even though they did not request. Do not irritate them with being loud in speech etc. in their presence. Do not interrupt them when they speak. Do not leave the house or leave their presence without taking leave from them (i.e. seek their permission) Do not disturb their rest or sleep. TEACH OUR YOUNG ONES: All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

Do not put or exceed others (wife or children) in preference over them. Do not criticise them when their opinion may not be agreeable to you. Do not laugh in their presence, lest they may misinterpret that, as your mocking or making fun of them. Do not begin eating before them, unless they have permitted. TEACH OUR YOUNG ONES: All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

Do not stretch out to take food before them, when dining together with them. Do not lie down, slouch or sleep when they are sitting with you, unless they permit. Do not stretch out your feet at them or in front of them. Do not enter before them, or walk ahead of them. TEACH OUR YOUNG ONES: All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

Be quick to respond to their call – and response with “ lab-bayk !” (meaning – “ Yes! at your service ”). To honour and respect all their friends, even after they (your parents) have passed away - i.e. to continue showing friendship with their friends. Do not befriend any person who is disrespectful to their own parents. Express your love to them, and for them (i.e. if speaking with others). TEACH OUR YOUNG ONES: All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

TEACH OUR YOUNG ONES: After they have passed away, always supplicate ( Du’a ) for them, as this will still benefit them. Recite frequently, especially this: رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِيْ صَغِيْرًا RAB-BIR – H AM-HUMAA KA-MAA ROB-BA-YAA-NEE – SWO-GHEE-RAA “ O my Lord (Allah)! Forgive (be Merciful to) the both of them, as they have shown mercy towards me since young.” All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010

Islam : to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. SELF KNOWLEDGE THE WORLD BODY MIND TONGUE HEART DESIRE PARENTS TIME All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 Relationship with the Parents and Teacher Beginning of education: [1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc. Teacher/Educator: [1] Parent [2] Teacher Although ultimate is Knowledge, (both theoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial. Obedience to Parents and teachers TEACHERS

Islam : to submit the entire self (body, tongue, heart and Mind) – Freeing it from desire which needs to always be guided to the Will of Allah. SELF KNOWLEDGE THE WORLD BODY MIND TONGUE HEART DESIRE PARENTS TIME All Rights Reserved© Zhulkeflee2010 Relationship with the Parents and Teacher Beginning of education: [1] Tarbiyya pertains to training of the soul still attached to desires, etc. Teacher/Educator: [1] Parent [2] Teacher Although ultimate is Knowledge, (both theoretical and practical) – initial disciplining, rote learning, memorization, etc. may be crucial. Obedience to Parents and teachers TEACHERS TO CONTINUE IN NEXT LESSON, INSHAALLAAH

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