Psy owens
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The document discusses effective communication strategies for teachers to use with students. It emphasizes using a consulting approach rather than commanding or helicopter styles. Key recommendations include setting firm limits without anger, putting the responsibility on students to solve problems, offering choices with limits, providing delayed consequences, and demonstrating empathy. Throughout, it stresses the importance of empathy when relating to and disciplining students.
Psy owens
- 1. Getting All Keyed Up! Effective communication with students
- 2. It’s all about Communication! We’re constantly communicating in one way or another – even if we don’t say a word 65-90% of a message is communicated nonverbally What kind of communicator am I ?
- 3. Commands and directs the lives of children Drill Sergeant “ I know what’s best for you and I’ll make sure you decide to do what I know is best.” Hovers over children and rescues them from the hostile world in which they live Helicopter “ I’ll make the decision for you because I’m afraid you might get hurt.” Provides guidance and consultant services for children Consultant “ I’ll be glad to help you explore alternatives, but I know you’re able to make good decisions.”
- 4. Brain Drain The things we remember most are the things we ________. Most of our immediate responses are “thoughtless.” When it comes to the way we relate to students… Is that OK?
- 5. … feed misbehavior Anger and Frustration … The Misbehavior Cycle
- 6. The Misbehavior Cycle Misbehavior Adult Shows Anger/Frustration Negative Self-Concept Perception of Authority Figures
- 7. Rule #1: Set firm limits in loving ways without anger, lecture or threats Rule #2: Hand the problem back to the student Hold the student accountable to solve problems in a way that doesn’t make a problem for others Offer choices with limits Use enforceable statements Provide delayed/extended consequences Lock in empathy before consequences are delivered Simple Rules
- 8. What’s the Key? Empathy What’s another Key? Empathy What’s another Key? Empathy
- 9. Do I say what I mean and mean what I say? Enforceable statements tell kids what WE will do or allow…. rather than trying to tell THEM what to do. Enforceable Statements
- 10. Control is a basic human emotional need Give lots of little choices about issues that don’t cause a problem for you or anyone else Turn Your Word into Gold