SlideShare a Scribd company logo
Creating a Caring School   A Toolkit for School Management Teams   Unit Seven Counselling support for vulnerable learners                                               SAIDE




                                      UNIT SEVEN
                                      Counselling support for vulnerable learners

                                      Tool 25: What kind of counselling service can your school
                                               offer?

                                      In Unit 7 we examined two options for school-based counselling support (see Guide
                                      page 162 Unit 7). The two options are illustrated by the two case studies which both
                                      provide wonderful examples of how, despite their challenging circumstances, these
                                      two schools have managed to develop workable strategies for offering counselling
                                      services to support vulnerable learners in their schools.

                                      Drawing on the two options presented in the guide, this tool is intended to help you
                                      think about and plan a feasible strategy for implementing a counseling support service
                                      at your school context.

                                      Purpose
                                           To conduct a situational analysis or assessment that will help you to understand the
                                           size of the challenge and the current capacity of your school to set up a counselling
                                           service.
                                           To assist you to decide on the most suitable options for implementing counselling
                                           support in your school context.

                                      What to do
                                      1. Call a meeting of your SMT and invite the School Based Support Team (SBST) to
                                         participate as well.

                                      2. Use the questions provided in the text box on the following page to guide your
                                         assessment of your school situation (size of the problem and current capacity to
                                         address the problem).

                                      3. Discuss and formulate answers to the questions. Record your answers and use these
                                         as the basis for planning the counseling component of your care and support plan
                                         which you will develop in Unit 8.




                                                                     This work is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.5 South African Licence. To view
    78
                                                                                             a copy of this licence visit http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/
Creating a Caring School      A Toolkit for School Management Teams           Unit Seven Counselling support for vulnerable learners                            SAIDE




                 TOOL                                                                                  Assess your options

                                                1. Assess “how big the problem is” how many vulnerable learners are there in your school and
                                                   how many are in need of counseling?

                                                      Think about the following:
                                                      • How will these learners be identified?
                                                      • How can teachers be involved in identifying learners in need of counselling support
                                                      • How will teachers know what to look out for?
                                                      • What role will the SBST play?
                                                      • How will learners be screened for referral?
                                                      • What system will you use to prioritise those learners that need counselling more urgently than
                                                          others?
                                                      • How will confidentiality be ensured?
                                                      • How will records be kept and how will learners progress tracked?

                                                2. Assess the resources, both human and other you already have in your school

                                                      Think about the following:
                                                      • Assess the current counseling skill levels and/or qualifications of teachers at your school to
                                                          establish your school’s capacity to offer counselling
                                                      • Do you have any teachers on your staff that have any specialized qualifications in child psychology
                                                          or counselling?
                                                      • Do you have any qualified Life Orientation / Life Skils teachers?
                                                      • Do you have any teachers who have had specialized professional development in counselling, either
                                                          through the Department of Education or through programmes offered by a reputable NGO?
                                                      • Does your school have a suitable room that affords the necessary privacy required for counseling?
                                                      • Do you have a suitable place to keep confidential records?

                                                3. Identify what additional resources your school may need to establish a well run counselling
                                                   service

                                                      Think about the following:
                                                      • Assess the potential of government and non–government organisations in your area to provide
                                                          counseling and support
                                                      • Identify and visit clinics, hospitals and South African Social Security Agency (SASSA) offices in your
                                                          area to establish what kind of support services including counseling services they can offer (illicit
                                                          details pertaining to nature of services, frequency of this service, cost, will they come to your
                                                          school or will you have to organize to get learners to their offices, any specific responsibilities that
                                                          they require of the school etc).
                                                      • Identify and visit any other non government, church–based or other organizations who work in your
                                                          area and establish what relevant support services they can offer (be sure to ascertain the terms
                                                          and conditions under which such services will be supplied)

                                                4. Assess your school’s capacity to coordinate and manage a counselling service

                                                      Think about the following:
                                                      • How can the SMT facilitate the creation of a positive and safe environment for dealing with HIV and
                                                          AIDS and other socio-economic barriers to learning?
                                                      • How will a code and culture of ethical behaviour be established in your school?
                                                      • Does your school have a SBST to coordinate the counseling service? If not, how will you go about
                                                          establishing a functional SBST?
                                                      • Is there a senior member of the SMT ( principal or deputy ) who will take responsibility for
                                                          overseeing and monitoring the counseling service
                                                      • Who will be responsible for keeping confidential records pertaining to vulnerable learners?

                                                5. Assess the financial implications and the school’s capacity for meeting these financial
                                                   obligations

                                                      Think about the following:
                                                      • What are the costs involved in using government and /or non-government counselling services (is
                                                          there a service fee?)
                                                      • Will there be transport costs involved in getting learners to particular facilities?
                                                      • Any other costs involved in offering a counseling service?
                                                      • How will the school raise the necessary money to meet the costs incurred?




           This work is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.5 South African Licence. To view
           a copy of this licence visit http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/
                                                                                                                                                             79
Creating a Caring School   A Toolkit for School Management Teams   Unit Seven Counselling support for vulnerable learners                                               SAIDE




                                      Tool 26: Towards creating a safe and supportive school
                                               environment

                                      As we have seen, support is crucial for learners experiencing various psycho-social
                                      barriers to learning, if they are to achieve their full potential. However, research has
                                      shown that while some children may need special counselling, the broader challenge of
                                      psycho-social support for children is not a matter for specialists:
                                      Rather it lies in creating school environments within which children feel safe and
                                      supported, rather than excluded and vulnerable.

                                      Therefore for most schools, the challenge is a dual one. How to provide specialist
                                      counselling for those learners who need it, but more generally, how to ensure that a
                                      caring culture is nurtured and maintained throughout the school. Importantly it needs
                                      to be understood that creating a culture of care and support is an ongoing process.
                                      Positive daily interaction between teachers and learners is critical to establishing a
                                      culture of caring.

                                      Because of their daily interaction with the learners, all teachers need to a certain extent,
                                      to be seen as “first level counsellors” (refer to the pastoral role ascribed to teachers as
                                      one of the seven roles of educators).

                                      Purpose
                                           This tool is intended to provide guidelines that help school management think
                                           about psycho-social support for learners and the key roles played by teachers in this
                                           respect.
                                           It is also intended, above all, to create a supportive, safe environment in which
                                           learners feel free to share their anxieties.

                                      What to do
                                      To provide emotional support to learners, teachers cannot force the issue. They need to
                                      be sensitive and patient, and might find that it takes time to win the learner’s trust.
                                      Some of the first skills a teacher needs to develop pertain to careful observation and
                                      listening skills.

                                      1. It is a good idea for the SMT to workshop the suggested guideline with the teaching
                                         staff.
                                      2. Discuss the important pastoral role that each teacher can play.
                                      3. Help teachers to see their contribution to creating a caring school.
                                      4. Discuss when it is necessary to refer learners for specialised counselling
                                      5. Inform all teachers as to what procedures need to be followed when referring
                                         learners for spcialised counseling (who should be contacted, who at the school is
                                         designated to deal with referrals etc).




                                                                     This work is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.5 South African Licence. To view
    80
                                                                                             a copy of this licence visit http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/
Creating a Caring School      A Toolkit for School Management Teams           Unit Seven Counselling support for vulnerable learners               SAIDE




                 TOOL                           Guidelines for teachers to build up a trusting and safe relationship with learners



                                                Never force a learner to talk. It must always be their choice. Avoid direct, persistent
                                                questioning – especially about personal experiences. Make sure that learners know that they
                                                only have to say something if they feel comfortable about it. They can choose.


                                                Confidentiality is very important. If you encourage the use of a journal or free writing you
                                                must make sure that learners are able to keep what they write confidential. Never tell other
                                                teachers or learners or people in the community about things a learner has told you about!


                                                Don’t be afraid of tears. Do not be afraid of children crying. Crying is a good way to get
                                                feelings out. Just sit quietly and touch the child gently on their arm to let them know you are
                                                caring. Let them cry. Give them a tissue and a glass of water. They will soon stop. Then talk
                                                quietly about how it is good to cry and let your feelings out and normal to feel very sad when
                                                someone has died. If a child cries while in a group or in class you can take them outside and
                                                stay with them until they feel better. When you get back into the class don’t just ignore the
                                                crying and pretend it didn’t happen. Say something like, “Thando was feeling very sad. We all
                                                feel that way sometimes. It is quite ok to cry when we feel sad. What can we say to make
                                                Thando feel better? Slowly move on to a happy topic of discussion or sing a happy song.


                                                Don’t give advice. It is not necessary to say things like “it is going to be alright. Don’t worry,
                                                things will get better.” They may not get better and this kind of comment tells the child that
                                                they should not really be crying. Don’t give advice either. Just listen and show you care with a
                                                tissue, a hand to hold and a glass of water.


                                                Refer children who are not able to carry on with normal life because they are too sad.
                                                Sometimes, a learner may not be able to function because they are too sad. They cannot
                                                cope with schoolwork or become withdrawn or start to behave badly. This is a sign that they
                                                are not coping with the grief. This is when you will need to refer them to a social worker or
                                                counselor for professional help.




           This work is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.5 South African Licence. To view
           a copy of this licence visit http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/
                                                                                                                                                 81

More Related Content

PPTX
McBride.Cue.Presentation
PDF
ACPA Advisor Manual
DOCX
Chapter 10 communications notes
PDF
1 theory -_i_imso_08_-_problem_with_answer_final
PPT
Steve jobs
PDF
Zibaba: Automated Social & Mobile Marketing
PDF
Panduanexel
DOCX
Farmer's Agribusiness Training Course: Module 3 - Entrepreneurship. Lesson 1:...
McBride.Cue.Presentation
ACPA Advisor Manual
Chapter 10 communications notes
1 theory -_i_imso_08_-_problem_with_answer_final
Steve jobs
Zibaba: Automated Social & Mobile Marketing
Panduanexel
Farmer's Agribusiness Training Course: Module 3 - Entrepreneurship. Lesson 1:...

Similar to Toolkit: Unit 7 - Counselling support for vulnerable learners. (20)

PDF
Learning Guide: Unit 7 - Counselling support for vulnerable learners.
PDF
Toolkit: Unit 8 - Developing a school-based care and support plan.
PPT
Counseling
PPTX
Blog sebl presentation
PPTX
Service and guidance in education
PDF
Blog sebl presentation
DOC
Brochure
PDF
Utilizing Technology in School Counselling: Innovations and Best Practices
PPT
Guidance and counseling at school
DOCX
Suport de curs
PDF
School counselors prove valuable partners in understanding student needs
PPTX
GUIDANCE AND COUNSELLING SERVICES.PPT GUPT.pptx
PPTX
diagnostic and remedial services ppt tx
PDF
Student Voice Facilitation Tool
PPTX
Guidance and Counselling
PPTX
Role of Counselling and Guidance in schools.pptx
PPTX
Gssd student services 2011 & 12 presentation
PPTX
Counseling vii report
PPTX
The School Counselor
PPTX
The School Counselor
Learning Guide: Unit 7 - Counselling support for vulnerable learners.
Toolkit: Unit 8 - Developing a school-based care and support plan.
Counseling
Blog sebl presentation
Service and guidance in education
Blog sebl presentation
Brochure
Utilizing Technology in School Counselling: Innovations and Best Practices
Guidance and counseling at school
Suport de curs
School counselors prove valuable partners in understanding student needs
GUIDANCE AND COUNSELLING SERVICES.PPT GUPT.pptx
diagnostic and remedial services ppt tx
Student Voice Facilitation Tool
Guidance and Counselling
Role of Counselling and Guidance in schools.pptx
Gssd student services 2011 & 12 presentation
Counseling vii report
The School Counselor
The School Counselor
Ad

More from Saide OER Africa (20)

PPTX
Asp openly licensed stories for early reading in africa mar 2015 slideshare
PPTX
Quality Considerations in eLearning
PPTX
African Storybook: The First 18 Months of the Project
PPTX
Digital Storytelling for Multilingual Literacy Development: Implications for ...
PPTX
Integrating ICT in TVET for Effective Technology Enabled Learning
PPTX
Higher Education Technology Outlook in Africa
PPTX
eLearning or eKnowledge - What are we offering students?
PPTX
The Rise of MOOCs
PDF
Understand school leadership and governance in the South African context (PDF)
PDF
Toolkit: Unit 6 - School-based aftercare.
PDF
Toolkit: Unit 5 - Good nutrition for learning.
PDF
Toolkit: Unit 3 - Care for vulnerable learners
PDF
Toolkit: Unit 2 - Schools as centres of care.
PDF
Toolkit: Unit 1 - How responsive are schools to the socio-economic challenges...
DOC
Reading: Understanding Intrapersonal Characteristics (Word)
PDF
Reading: Understanding Intrapersonal Characteristics (pdf)
DOC
Reading: Guidelines for Inclusive Learning Programmes (word)
PDF
Reading: Guidelines for Inclusive Learning Programmes (pdf)
PDF
Professional Learning Communities for Teacher Development: The Collaborative ...
PDF
Plan and conduct assessment
Asp openly licensed stories for early reading in africa mar 2015 slideshare
Quality Considerations in eLearning
African Storybook: The First 18 Months of the Project
Digital Storytelling for Multilingual Literacy Development: Implications for ...
Integrating ICT in TVET for Effective Technology Enabled Learning
Higher Education Technology Outlook in Africa
eLearning or eKnowledge - What are we offering students?
The Rise of MOOCs
Understand school leadership and governance in the South African context (PDF)
Toolkit: Unit 6 - School-based aftercare.
Toolkit: Unit 5 - Good nutrition for learning.
Toolkit: Unit 3 - Care for vulnerable learners
Toolkit: Unit 2 - Schools as centres of care.
Toolkit: Unit 1 - How responsive are schools to the socio-economic challenges...
Reading: Understanding Intrapersonal Characteristics (Word)
Reading: Understanding Intrapersonal Characteristics (pdf)
Reading: Guidelines for Inclusive Learning Programmes (word)
Reading: Guidelines for Inclusive Learning Programmes (pdf)
Professional Learning Communities for Teacher Development: The Collaborative ...
Plan and conduct assessment
Ad

Recently uploaded (20)

PPTX
Introduction_to_Human_Anatomy_and_Physiology_for_B.Pharm.pptx
PPTX
Institutional Correction lecture only . . .
PPTX
Lesson notes of climatology university.
PDF
O5-L3 Freight Transport Ops (International) V1.pdf
PDF
grade 11-chemistry_fetena_net_5883.pdf teacher guide for all student
PDF
O7-L3 Supply Chain Operations - ICLT Program
PDF
Abdominal Access Techniques with Prof. Dr. R K Mishra
PDF
BÀI TẬP BỔ TRỢ 4 KỸ NĂNG TIẾNG ANH 9 GLOBAL SUCCESS - CẢ NĂM - BÁM SÁT FORM Đ...
PDF
3rd Neelam Sanjeevareddy Memorial Lecture.pdf
PPTX
Cell Types and Its function , kingdom of life
PDF
Basic Mud Logging Guide for educational purpose
PDF
Classroom Observation Tools for Teachers
PDF
Black Hat USA 2025 - Micro ICS Summit - ICS/OT Threat Landscape
PPTX
Renaissance Architecture: A Journey from Faith to Humanism
PDF
Sports Quiz easy sports quiz sports quiz
PDF
Microbial disease of the cardiovascular and lymphatic systems
PDF
Module 4: Burden of Disease Tutorial Slides S2 2025
PDF
Saundersa Comprehensive Review for the NCLEX-RN Examination.pdf
PPTX
human mycosis Human fungal infections are called human mycosis..pptx
PDF
Chapter 2 Heredity, Prenatal Development, and Birth.pdf
Introduction_to_Human_Anatomy_and_Physiology_for_B.Pharm.pptx
Institutional Correction lecture only . . .
Lesson notes of climatology university.
O5-L3 Freight Transport Ops (International) V1.pdf
grade 11-chemistry_fetena_net_5883.pdf teacher guide for all student
O7-L3 Supply Chain Operations - ICLT Program
Abdominal Access Techniques with Prof. Dr. R K Mishra
BÀI TẬP BỔ TRỢ 4 KỸ NĂNG TIẾNG ANH 9 GLOBAL SUCCESS - CẢ NĂM - BÁM SÁT FORM Đ...
3rd Neelam Sanjeevareddy Memorial Lecture.pdf
Cell Types and Its function , kingdom of life
Basic Mud Logging Guide for educational purpose
Classroom Observation Tools for Teachers
Black Hat USA 2025 - Micro ICS Summit - ICS/OT Threat Landscape
Renaissance Architecture: A Journey from Faith to Humanism
Sports Quiz easy sports quiz sports quiz
Microbial disease of the cardiovascular and lymphatic systems
Module 4: Burden of Disease Tutorial Slides S2 2025
Saundersa Comprehensive Review for the NCLEX-RN Examination.pdf
human mycosis Human fungal infections are called human mycosis..pptx
Chapter 2 Heredity, Prenatal Development, and Birth.pdf

Toolkit: Unit 7 - Counselling support for vulnerable learners.

  • 1. Creating a Caring School A Toolkit for School Management Teams Unit Seven Counselling support for vulnerable learners SAIDE UNIT SEVEN Counselling support for vulnerable learners Tool 25: What kind of counselling service can your school offer? In Unit 7 we examined two options for school-based counselling support (see Guide page 162 Unit 7). The two options are illustrated by the two case studies which both provide wonderful examples of how, despite their challenging circumstances, these two schools have managed to develop workable strategies for offering counselling services to support vulnerable learners in their schools. Drawing on the two options presented in the guide, this tool is intended to help you think about and plan a feasible strategy for implementing a counseling support service at your school context. Purpose To conduct a situational analysis or assessment that will help you to understand the size of the challenge and the current capacity of your school to set up a counselling service. To assist you to decide on the most suitable options for implementing counselling support in your school context. What to do 1. Call a meeting of your SMT and invite the School Based Support Team (SBST) to participate as well. 2. Use the questions provided in the text box on the following page to guide your assessment of your school situation (size of the problem and current capacity to address the problem). 3. Discuss and formulate answers to the questions. Record your answers and use these as the basis for planning the counseling component of your care and support plan which you will develop in Unit 8. This work is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.5 South African Licence. To view 78 a copy of this licence visit http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/
  • 2. Creating a Caring School A Toolkit for School Management Teams Unit Seven Counselling support for vulnerable learners SAIDE TOOL Assess your options 1. Assess “how big the problem is” how many vulnerable learners are there in your school and how many are in need of counseling? Think about the following: • How will these learners be identified? • How can teachers be involved in identifying learners in need of counselling support • How will teachers know what to look out for? • What role will the SBST play? • How will learners be screened for referral? • What system will you use to prioritise those learners that need counselling more urgently than others? • How will confidentiality be ensured? • How will records be kept and how will learners progress tracked? 2. Assess the resources, both human and other you already have in your school Think about the following: • Assess the current counseling skill levels and/or qualifications of teachers at your school to establish your school’s capacity to offer counselling • Do you have any teachers on your staff that have any specialized qualifications in child psychology or counselling? • Do you have any qualified Life Orientation / Life Skils teachers? • Do you have any teachers who have had specialized professional development in counselling, either through the Department of Education or through programmes offered by a reputable NGO? • Does your school have a suitable room that affords the necessary privacy required for counseling? • Do you have a suitable place to keep confidential records? 3. Identify what additional resources your school may need to establish a well run counselling service Think about the following: • Assess the potential of government and non–government organisations in your area to provide counseling and support • Identify and visit clinics, hospitals and South African Social Security Agency (SASSA) offices in your area to establish what kind of support services including counseling services they can offer (illicit details pertaining to nature of services, frequency of this service, cost, will they come to your school or will you have to organize to get learners to their offices, any specific responsibilities that they require of the school etc). • Identify and visit any other non government, church–based or other organizations who work in your area and establish what relevant support services they can offer (be sure to ascertain the terms and conditions under which such services will be supplied) 4. Assess your school’s capacity to coordinate and manage a counselling service Think about the following: • How can the SMT facilitate the creation of a positive and safe environment for dealing with HIV and AIDS and other socio-economic barriers to learning? • How will a code and culture of ethical behaviour be established in your school? • Does your school have a SBST to coordinate the counseling service? If not, how will you go about establishing a functional SBST? • Is there a senior member of the SMT ( principal or deputy ) who will take responsibility for overseeing and monitoring the counseling service • Who will be responsible for keeping confidential records pertaining to vulnerable learners? 5. Assess the financial implications and the school’s capacity for meeting these financial obligations Think about the following: • What are the costs involved in using government and /or non-government counselling services (is there a service fee?) • Will there be transport costs involved in getting learners to particular facilities? • Any other costs involved in offering a counseling service? • How will the school raise the necessary money to meet the costs incurred? This work is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.5 South African Licence. To view a copy of this licence visit http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/ 79
  • 3. Creating a Caring School A Toolkit for School Management Teams Unit Seven Counselling support for vulnerable learners SAIDE Tool 26: Towards creating a safe and supportive school environment As we have seen, support is crucial for learners experiencing various psycho-social barriers to learning, if they are to achieve their full potential. However, research has shown that while some children may need special counselling, the broader challenge of psycho-social support for children is not a matter for specialists: Rather it lies in creating school environments within which children feel safe and supported, rather than excluded and vulnerable. Therefore for most schools, the challenge is a dual one. How to provide specialist counselling for those learners who need it, but more generally, how to ensure that a caring culture is nurtured and maintained throughout the school. Importantly it needs to be understood that creating a culture of care and support is an ongoing process. Positive daily interaction between teachers and learners is critical to establishing a culture of caring. Because of their daily interaction with the learners, all teachers need to a certain extent, to be seen as “first level counsellors” (refer to the pastoral role ascribed to teachers as one of the seven roles of educators). Purpose This tool is intended to provide guidelines that help school management think about psycho-social support for learners and the key roles played by teachers in this respect. It is also intended, above all, to create a supportive, safe environment in which learners feel free to share their anxieties. What to do To provide emotional support to learners, teachers cannot force the issue. They need to be sensitive and patient, and might find that it takes time to win the learner’s trust. Some of the first skills a teacher needs to develop pertain to careful observation and listening skills. 1. It is a good idea for the SMT to workshop the suggested guideline with the teaching staff. 2. Discuss the important pastoral role that each teacher can play. 3. Help teachers to see their contribution to creating a caring school. 4. Discuss when it is necessary to refer learners for specialised counselling 5. Inform all teachers as to what procedures need to be followed when referring learners for spcialised counseling (who should be contacted, who at the school is designated to deal with referrals etc). This work is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.5 South African Licence. To view 80 a copy of this licence visit http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/
  • 4. Creating a Caring School A Toolkit for School Management Teams Unit Seven Counselling support for vulnerable learners SAIDE TOOL Guidelines for teachers to build up a trusting and safe relationship with learners Never force a learner to talk. It must always be their choice. Avoid direct, persistent questioning – especially about personal experiences. Make sure that learners know that they only have to say something if they feel comfortable about it. They can choose. Confidentiality is very important. If you encourage the use of a journal or free writing you must make sure that learners are able to keep what they write confidential. Never tell other teachers or learners or people in the community about things a learner has told you about! Don’t be afraid of tears. Do not be afraid of children crying. Crying is a good way to get feelings out. Just sit quietly and touch the child gently on their arm to let them know you are caring. Let them cry. Give them a tissue and a glass of water. They will soon stop. Then talk quietly about how it is good to cry and let your feelings out and normal to feel very sad when someone has died. If a child cries while in a group or in class you can take them outside and stay with them until they feel better. When you get back into the class don’t just ignore the crying and pretend it didn’t happen. Say something like, “Thando was feeling very sad. We all feel that way sometimes. It is quite ok to cry when we feel sad. What can we say to make Thando feel better? Slowly move on to a happy topic of discussion or sing a happy song. Don’t give advice. It is not necessary to say things like “it is going to be alright. Don’t worry, things will get better.” They may not get better and this kind of comment tells the child that they should not really be crying. Don’t give advice either. Just listen and show you care with a tissue, a hand to hold and a glass of water. Refer children who are not able to carry on with normal life because they are too sad. Sometimes, a learner may not be able to function because they are too sad. They cannot cope with schoolwork or become withdrawn or start to behave badly. This is a sign that they are not coping with the grief. This is when you will need to refer them to a social worker or counselor for professional help. This work is licensed under the Creative Commons Attribution 2.5 South African Licence. To view a copy of this licence visit http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.5/ 81