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Reach for your advice Treat you as you wish to be treated Respect you Pay your bill without question Give you the benefit of the doubt Forgive you when you make a mistake Protect you when you need it Warn you of danger that you might avoid Trust your instinct and judgement Bring you in on more advanced, complex and important issues Source: The trusted advisor, David Maister
 
 
 
 
TRUST  ?
 
We play games
Cooperation – Prisoners dilemma’s Prisoner A Prisoner B 7 7 0 10 10 0 1 1 Confess Don’t confess Confess Don’t confess Source: John Nash
Coordination – Battle of the sexes He She 3 2 1 1 0 0 2 3 Football Theatre Football Theatre Source: John Nash
Confrontation – Chicken Game Person A Person B 0 0 -1 5 5 -1 -10 -10 Swerve Stick Swerve Stick Source: John Nash
Seems to understand me, effortlessly, and like us Is consistent (I can depend on him/her) Always helps us see things from a fresh perspective Doesn’t try to force things on us Helps us think things through (it’s our decision) Doesn’t substitute their judgement for ours Doesn’t panic or get overemotional (they stay calm) Helps us  think  and separate our logic from our emotions Criticizes and corrects us, gently, lovingly Doesn’t pull their punches (we can rely on them to tell us the truth) Is in it for the long haul (the relationship is more important than the current issue) Gives us reasoning, not just conclusions Gives us options, gives recommendation and lets us choose Challenges our assumptions Makes us feel comfortable and casual personally Acts like a real person, not someone in a role Is reliably on our side and always seems to have our interests at heart … Source: The trusted advisor, David Maister
TRUST  ?
In geval van arbeidsongeschiktheid wegens ziekte en/of ongeval en in geval van verlenging hiervan, is de Medewerk(st)er gehouden onmiddellijk de Werkgever hiervan op de hoogte te brengen en dit vanaf de 2de dag van afwezigheid te staven door een geneeskundig getuigschrift, vermeldend aanvang en vermoedelijke duur van de ongeschiktheid, ten laatste op het einde van de tweede werkdag vanaf de dag van de ongeschiktheid. In geval van verlenging van de arbeidsongeschiktheid na de oorspronkelijk voorziene termijn, dient de Medewerk(st)er de Werkgever een nieuw geneeskundig getuigschrift te bezorgen, ten laatste op het einde van de tweede werkdag vanaf de eerste dag van arbeidsongeschiktheid die niet gedekt is door het oorspronkelijke getuigschrift. De Medewerk(st)er aanvaardt ook zich door een door de Werkgever aan te duiden arts of specialist medisch te laten onderzoeken.
 
 
 
 
Ideas box
 
Development in trust... TRUST Pro-active co-operation Re-active co-operation Obstruction Involvement Time 17 - 54 Source: Gallup
Whom do you trust?
Think back... I love this work! This IS why I do what I do. It’s ok, I can live with it. It’s what I do for a living. This is life. I hate this part. I wish I could get rid of this junk I like these people and their work interests me. I can live with these people. Their business is ok. They are not my kind of people. I don’t like spending time with them, but I do, since I’m professional. I have no interest in their industry.
 
Source: The eight habit, Stephen Covey Talent Need Conscience Passion VOICE
Principles about trust 1
Organisation & processes Passion & Attitude Tools & Skills Frustration Manipulation Balancing R & E Support Authenticity Leadership (climate) “ Silver-bullet”methods Inspiration O P T
1 Maturity Information Low High Rational Emotional Inspired by: Ulrich Libbrecht Knowledge Experience
 
Trust is what you  receive over  time by  giving
Trust Grows, rather than appears Is both rational and emotional Presumes a two-way relationship Is intrinsically about perceived risk Is different for the Client than it is for the Advisor Is personal
Trust equation T: Trustworthiness C: Credibility R: Reliability I: Intimacy S: Self-orientation Source: David Maister
Trust in practice 1
 
Relationships (1/2) Expert Scope of advice Depth of personal relationship Expert + Valuable Resource Coach Service based Needs based Relationship based Trust based
Relationships (2/2) Source: David Maister Service Based Needs Based Relation Based Trust Based Focus Answer, expert. Business Problem Client Org. Client as individual Energy Explaining Problem solving Providing insights Understanding Client Client rec.: Information Solutions Ideas Safe haven for issues KSF’s Timely, quality Problems resolved Repeat business Creative pricing…
Influence…trustworthy 2 Source: McKinsey & Co. Approach What happens Explaining Legitimising Logical persuading Asking Appealing to friendship Socialising Consulting Stating Stating Inspiring Appealing to values Modelling Exchanging Exchanging Alliance Building Alliance building
Influence…withOUT integrity Avoiding Threatening Intimidating Manipulating 2
 
Becoming a trusted advisor Study sincerely your customer/client Do you know what you don’t know? SHUT UP and listen Do what you promised Notify IN ADVANCE if you can’t Do MORE (without business developing) Have FUN in what you do
Analyse your current relationship Distant (cold) Close (warm) Lots of Talking Lots of Listening Free Script Subject only No scope process nature action scope Source: Rudy Vandamme TRUST TRUST TRUST
Rules of thumb A chat with mom and dad Go first! Illustrate, don’t tell Listen for what’s different, not for what’s familiar Be sure your advice is asked for Earn the right to give advice Keep asking Say what you mean When you need help, ask for it Show an interest in the person Use compliments, not flattery Show appreciation
Things I do... Pyramid Principle PIP Six thinking hats “ Pre-wire”
Peer coaching
Reveal yourself
The Saints did not pray to the Good Lord for instructions on what to do. The Bible was already clear on what was expected of them. Nevertheless, the Saints got down on their knees every day of their lives – to pray that they could find the  courage  and strength to  do  the right thing. Old Mexican proverb
Sources of inspiration
bedankt www.jenspas.be www.dekrachtvanontmoetingen.be De fuik dient om de vis te vangen. Als de vis gevangen is, vergeet dan de fuik. De strik dient om de haas te vangen. Als de haas gevangen is, vergeet dan de strik. Het woord dient om de gedachte te vangen. Als de gedachte gevangen is, vergeet dan het woord.

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Becoming a trusted advisor - what consultancy really is about

  • 1. Becoming a trusted advisor what consultancy really is about
  • 2.  
  • 3. Reach for your advice Treat you as you wish to be treated Respect you Pay your bill without question Give you the benefit of the doubt Forgive you when you make a mistake Protect you when you need it Warn you of danger that you might avoid Trust your instinct and judgement Bring you in on more advanced, complex and important issues Source: The trusted advisor, David Maister
  • 4.  
  • 5.  
  • 6.  
  • 7.  
  • 9.  
  • 11. Cooperation – Prisoners dilemma’s Prisoner A Prisoner B 7 7 0 10 10 0 1 1 Confess Don’t confess Confess Don’t confess Source: John Nash
  • 12. Coordination – Battle of the sexes He She 3 2 1 1 0 0 2 3 Football Theatre Football Theatre Source: John Nash
  • 13. Confrontation – Chicken Game Person A Person B 0 0 -1 5 5 -1 -10 -10 Swerve Stick Swerve Stick Source: John Nash
  • 14. Seems to understand me, effortlessly, and like us Is consistent (I can depend on him/her) Always helps us see things from a fresh perspective Doesn’t try to force things on us Helps us think things through (it’s our decision) Doesn’t substitute their judgement for ours Doesn’t panic or get overemotional (they stay calm) Helps us think and separate our logic from our emotions Criticizes and corrects us, gently, lovingly Doesn’t pull their punches (we can rely on them to tell us the truth) Is in it for the long haul (the relationship is more important than the current issue) Gives us reasoning, not just conclusions Gives us options, gives recommendation and lets us choose Challenges our assumptions Makes us feel comfortable and casual personally Acts like a real person, not someone in a role Is reliably on our side and always seems to have our interests at heart … Source: The trusted advisor, David Maister
  • 16. In geval van arbeidsongeschiktheid wegens ziekte en/of ongeval en in geval van verlenging hiervan, is de Medewerk(st)er gehouden onmiddellijk de Werkgever hiervan op de hoogte te brengen en dit vanaf de 2de dag van afwezigheid te staven door een geneeskundig getuigschrift, vermeldend aanvang en vermoedelijke duur van de ongeschiktheid, ten laatste op het einde van de tweede werkdag vanaf de dag van de ongeschiktheid. In geval van verlenging van de arbeidsongeschiktheid na de oorspronkelijk voorziene termijn, dient de Medewerk(st)er de Werkgever een nieuw geneeskundig getuigschrift te bezorgen, ten laatste op het einde van de tweede werkdag vanaf de eerste dag van arbeidsongeschiktheid die niet gedekt is door het oorspronkelijke getuigschrift. De Medewerk(st)er aanvaardt ook zich door een door de Werkgever aan te duiden arts of specialist medisch te laten onderzoeken.
  • 17.  
  • 18.  
  • 19.  
  • 20.  
  • 22.  
  • 23. Development in trust... TRUST Pro-active co-operation Re-active co-operation Obstruction Involvement Time 17 - 54 Source: Gallup
  • 24. Whom do you trust?
  • 25. Think back... I love this work! This IS why I do what I do. It’s ok, I can live with it. It’s what I do for a living. This is life. I hate this part. I wish I could get rid of this junk I like these people and their work interests me. I can live with these people. Their business is ok. They are not my kind of people. I don’t like spending time with them, but I do, since I’m professional. I have no interest in their industry.
  • 26.  
  • 27. Source: The eight habit, Stephen Covey Talent Need Conscience Passion VOICE
  • 29. Organisation & processes Passion & Attitude Tools & Skills Frustration Manipulation Balancing R & E Support Authenticity Leadership (climate) “ Silver-bullet”methods Inspiration O P T
  • 30. 1 Maturity Information Low High Rational Emotional Inspired by: Ulrich Libbrecht Knowledge Experience
  • 31.  
  • 32. Trust is what you receive over time by giving
  • 33. Trust Grows, rather than appears Is both rational and emotional Presumes a two-way relationship Is intrinsically about perceived risk Is different for the Client than it is for the Advisor Is personal
  • 34. Trust equation T: Trustworthiness C: Credibility R: Reliability I: Intimacy S: Self-orientation Source: David Maister
  • 36.  
  • 37. Relationships (1/2) Expert Scope of advice Depth of personal relationship Expert + Valuable Resource Coach Service based Needs based Relationship based Trust based
  • 38. Relationships (2/2) Source: David Maister Service Based Needs Based Relation Based Trust Based Focus Answer, expert. Business Problem Client Org. Client as individual Energy Explaining Problem solving Providing insights Understanding Client Client rec.: Information Solutions Ideas Safe haven for issues KSF’s Timely, quality Problems resolved Repeat business Creative pricing…
  • 39. Influence…trustworthy 2 Source: McKinsey & Co. Approach What happens Explaining Legitimising Logical persuading Asking Appealing to friendship Socialising Consulting Stating Stating Inspiring Appealing to values Modelling Exchanging Exchanging Alliance Building Alliance building
  • 40. Influence…withOUT integrity Avoiding Threatening Intimidating Manipulating 2
  • 41.  
  • 42. Becoming a trusted advisor Study sincerely your customer/client Do you know what you don’t know? SHUT UP and listen Do what you promised Notify IN ADVANCE if you can’t Do MORE (without business developing) Have FUN in what you do
  • 43. Analyse your current relationship Distant (cold) Close (warm) Lots of Talking Lots of Listening Free Script Subject only No scope process nature action scope Source: Rudy Vandamme TRUST TRUST TRUST
  • 44. Rules of thumb A chat with mom and dad Go first! Illustrate, don’t tell Listen for what’s different, not for what’s familiar Be sure your advice is asked for Earn the right to give advice Keep asking Say what you mean When you need help, ask for it Show an interest in the person Use compliments, not flattery Show appreciation
  • 45. Things I do... Pyramid Principle PIP Six thinking hats “ Pre-wire”
  • 48. The Saints did not pray to the Good Lord for instructions on what to do. The Bible was already clear on what was expected of them. Nevertheless, the Saints got down on their knees every day of their lives – to pray that they could find the courage and strength to do the right thing. Old Mexican proverb
  • 50. bedankt www.jenspas.be www.dekrachtvanontmoetingen.be De fuik dient om de vis te vangen. Als de vis gevangen is, vergeet dan de fuik. De strik dient om de haas te vangen. Als de haas gevangen is, vergeet dan de strik. Het woord dient om de gedachte te vangen. Als de gedachte gevangen is, vergeet dan het woord.