How To Unstuck Yourself
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The document discusses the concept that many of our self-imposed limitations are not fixed and can be viewed as temporary states. By reframing statements about our abilities, such as changing 'I can't juggle' to 'I can't juggle yet,' individuals can begin to envision change and improvement. This perspective is applicable in various contexts, including personal development and sales, emphasizing the power of language in shaping beliefs and outcomes.
How To Unstuck Yourself
- 1. Are You Frozen In Time?
- 3. However, us humans tend to think many things are fixed.
- 4. Like if somebody asked you if you could juggle, you'd likely say no, you can't.
- 5. But this isn't entirely true.
- 6. If somebody offered you 100K to learn to juggle, you probably would.
- 7. I know I would!
- 8. So a more "correct" statement might be, "I can't juggle now."
- 9. This is a small but effective tactic that is used in NLP to help people get over self imposed limitations.
- 10. A guy goes to see a dating coach for example, and says "I can't talk to girls."
- 11. And the coach says, "You mean you can't talk to girls yet."
- 12. Once he agrees to this, suddenly his "inability" is no longer set in stone, it's only a temporary thing.
- 13. And once we accept that something is temporary, we start to imagine a time when it's not true.
- 14. One of Abraham Lincoln's favorite sayings was, "This too shall pass."
- 15. While he was talking about countries, governments, wars, etc., this is true about everything.
- 16. Sure, some things take a long, long time to change.
- 17. Like the Grand Canyon, or the continents slowly drifting around due to plate tectonics.
- 18. But they change. Even the universe itself is changing, on a very large scale.
- 19. This is one reason why some recommend not using the "be" verb when speaking, especially about personal abilities.
- 20. Saying "I feel sad," is, on a deep level, a lot less limiting than "I am sad."
- 21. Even better, saying "I feel sad now," implies that later you'll feel something different.
- 22. Some folks even use this in sales.
- 23. "Can you see how wonderful this product will be when you get it home?
- 24. "No. I can't."
- 25. "Not yet, huh? Well, lemme show you this cool part..."
- 26. This is one reason why some therapists and salespeople are so ultra powerful, while others are kind of so so.
- 27. The ultra powerful ones simply assume some positive things about the person they're talking to.
- 28. They assume their problems and limitations are temporary, and it naturally comes out in their language.
- 29. Simply discussing them like this, without coming up with specific solutions, is often times enough.
- 30. Once you accept that all your limitations are temporary, it's much, much easier to shrug them off.
- 31. Then it's just a matter of doing what it takes to get rid of them.
- 32. No matter what kinds of issues you've got, no matter what kinds of things you think you can't do, they are temporary.